When Someone is  

Mean to You..

Was someone mean to you today? How did you handle it?

In these speeded up times, we seem to be getting hit with all that "old stuff" that hasn't been dealt with yet. So, now let's deal! What an opportunity for growth, eh?

Now, what was your reaction when someone was mean to you? Dumfounded, hurt, angry, lash back, slink away to lick your wounds? Did you allow the interaction to reinforce your identity as a victim by taking the affront personally?  So, the first thing in such a situation is not to injure yourself.  

DO NOT INJURE YOURSELF BY GOING INTO VICTIM MODE!

Instead, understand that in this Aquarian Age, Yogi Bhajan told us that people will be going crazy. This means crazy to every degree, and on all levels, and this could even refer to US!

So, take every affront as a most tremendous opportunity to practice your warrior training. Train both "in battle," meaning in the situation as well as constantly in the "dojo" of your mind when you are not being attacked. Train yourself with the dedication and strength of a warrior so that when the attack comes, your instantaneous response is automatic. You snap into the laser focus and practiced powerful presence of a warrior of Spirit.

This is truly a profound martial art of Consciousness.

Now I know that this takes a lot of dedicated training to be able to do this in the absolute second, just as any martial art does, so you might as well get started right away.   Therefore, in the instant:

1. In a flash, park your own victim feelings--anger, hurt, judgment, self-defeat, fighting back, etc. Nothing will throw you off more than indulging your own self-destructive emotional habits of being victimized, fighting back, etc.


2. Ground your energy into Mother Earth, and expand yourself immediately--this is the warrior's stance, and this is what keeps you balanced and rooted in the power of your Presence. Do your best to relax while still being attentive and aware.


3. Breathe Heart Breath--that is you powerfully move this healing energy though both of you to loosen and raise the very real energy of the situation out of being stuck in the lower registers of "head butting" to a "place" where surprising changes for the better can happen. Remember this "battle relationship" is lethal business that is being raised to the powerful higher dimensions of freedom.


4. Use a mantra, call on Guru Ram Das, Baba Siri Chand and/or Yogi Bhajan. Their incredible influence is your "army at your back" that can open the way and take charge through you as you "hold the space."


5. Set yourself in a purely neutral state. This is a fully focused energetic state that is based in profound neutrality--never numbness. Neutral space is CLEAR SPACE where you can "hear, feel, see" the True way of dealing with the situation for everyone's highest good. Don't worry if your nerves are playing havoc with your body. Just mentally and energetically hold the neutral, clear state as best you can. The challenge is that as you are doing this, you never quite know where you are going. OK! Just stick with what is flowing through you at every second.
6. Intensely listen with the same "apparatus" that you use when engaged in intuition. It is a sensation of "big ears" or hugely increased awareness where you can "hear, feel, see, etc." what is truly happening as well as your receiving guidance in the second on just how to respond--way beyond the obvious. In this condition, you cannot hold onto any preconceived notion of how to act. Instead, listen to the words flowing out of your mouth and the tone in which they are delivered. In this "place" of intuitive response, you cannot cling to any kind of old judgment based on how things "should" be going. You are stripped of all guile, leading you to express the power of the Present in unforeseen ways.


7. Don't forget that you are listening to and responding to the words of your "opponent" as well in this whole mix. Quite a multi-dimensional blend in the moment. But as you gain practice, this flow will come naturally.


8. Be profoundly grateful for the encounter!After all, the other person is your "worthy opponent."  "The other person is YOU!" as Yogi Bhajan said.  How else could you possibly engage in this extremely potent training to be totally present in your Soul--no matter what?

Then before the encounter, as part of your daily training or after it, spend time in a meditative state communicating with your Divine Soul, or any of those Divine Personages--Guru Ram Das, Baba Siri Chand or Yogi Bhajan, asking them to understand how you can change yourself to better handle these kinds of situations.

I assure you that you will get the most incredible feedback! Let your "everyday self" (your mind, emotions, cultural training, preconceived ideas and so on) ask the questions. Then allow your Divine Guidance show you the Truth and how to heal yourself, how to clear yourself, how to extend the Power of the Present into every situation that comes your way. Use all of your Kundalini Yoga tools to move through any blocks!

Let this be your "post mortum" method to dissect the situation so that you can understand how to handle it from this higher level so much better in the future. Sadhana is a great time to do this.

Churning over that "he said, she said" blaming stuff in your mind just sweeps you away to continued stupidity. Don't be a victim to it.  

Rather, listen to your most profound Teachers within, and with great purpose and commitment, learn from Them and heal. This is the only way that will really work for us as we progress more and more into this Aquarian Dimension. Then move on without carrying a grudge or animosity for anyone--only heart breath for healing on all sides, and pure gratitude for your growth.

Then it would be such a tremendous help to all the rest of us if you would please post your experiences with this training to our Soul Answer Tribe Facebook page so that we can understand your path of trials and surprising results with this. This is how we learn and support one another! Please go towww.Facebook.com/groups/soulanswer  to share.

Thanks so much, Dear Warriors of the Spirit. We are enthusiastically looking forward to meeting you there in our cozy, online group--our place of shared hearts and Souls.

Lots of Love,

Siri-Gian Kaur

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Regarding the photo at the top:

Once I wrote this article, I realized that this method of Spirit Warriorship embodies many of the basic principles of Akido, which is that Japanese Martial Art that connot be done aggressively--only in defense from attack in which the defender redirects the flow of energy between them.  Aikido actually means the practice of blending or harmonizing energy or "Ki".   

The white haired gentleman in the photo is Morihei  Ueshiba who was the gifted founder of Aikido.  As you can see, he is not ruffled at all as he powerfully redirects the flow of his worthy opponent's energy!  This is primarily done with powerful, flowing, completely non-aggressive energy--not muscle. And when you are "thrown" by a fine practioner, you feel so happy, so much fun.  It is really amazing!